Episode 20

19 - 5 Months In Already!

Blabbering: Babies!

Welcome to Episode 19 - Navigating post-partum sex and deciding on a religious naming ceremony.

🎙️ Episode Drop Alert: "5 Months In Already!" 👶🍞☕️ Episode 19 is a heart-warming mingle of baby milestones, family roles, and the sweet chaos of parenting. Here's a peek at this week's episode:

1️⃣ (Almost) Half-Year Hijinks: Can you believe it? Tilly and Dan marvel at the 5-month mark of their parenting journey, sharing the unexpected joys and surreal feelings that come with time flying by. 🚼🗓️

2️⃣ Culinary Creations: Indulge in the delicious details of Tilly's "monster banana bread," packed with nuts and chocolate. It's a yummy metaphor for their life right now - messy, nutty, but oh-so-sweet. 🍌🍫 As well as Coffee & Collagen: Tilly spills the beans on her collagen-infused coffee, a little life hack for new parents needing a beauty boost amidst baby care - while baby sips on milk. ☕️✨

3️⃣ Grandparent and Great Grandparent Glee: Dive into the dynamics of grandparents stepping in, the different styles of spoiling, and the joy of having a village to raise a child. 👴👵❤️

4️⃣ Faith & Naming Day: Join the discussion on blessings, beliefs, and finding their path in celebrating their little one's existence and naming ceremony. 🙏🎉

5️⃣ Bloopers & Blunders: From unexpected baby middle fingers to the science of smelly nappies, enjoy the lighter side of parenting with Dan and Tilly's comical anecdotes. 😂👶

Buckle up for a dose of reality, seasoned with humour and love, as we reflect on the rapid pace of growing up - both for baby and parents.

🎧 Tune in for a journey through laughter and lots of baby babbles. #5MonthsIn #ParentingJourney #FamilyFun #PodcastLife 🎙️👶🎉

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Transcript
Ian:

Welcome to " 5 Months In Already!", you've got me for the intro as everyone's

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asleep after a Scotland road trip,

but that is for a future episode.

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We've almost hit the half-year mark

of this wild ride called parenting.

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In today's episode, we're peeling

back the curtain on our lives,

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which, like Tilly's chunky and nutty

banana bread, is a delicious blend

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of sweet moments and chaotic crumbs.

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We'll celebrate the richness of family

with grandparent tales, contemplate

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the spirituality of naming days,

and chuckle over the unexpected

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humor in baby's innocent gestures.

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Tilly: 5 months, baby!

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Dan 1: It's a bit of a milestone week,

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Tilly: I can't believe

we're almost at half a year.

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That seems mental to me.

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Dan 1: Like, I don't talk

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Tilly: feel like we've

been parents that long.

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No, it's

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Dan 1: No, it's still creeping up on me.

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There we are.

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Almost

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Tilly: But there we are, a whole,

almost half a year with you.

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Dan 1: Because it's strange,

because I'm used to the idea that

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I've got her, but I'm not used

to the idea that I'm a parent.

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Tilly: parent.

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I know, I keep hearing stuff about

Mother's Day and I'm like, and I don't,

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I don't think about that's for me now.

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I'm like, oh god, what am I going

to do for my mum and your mum?

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And grandparents and grandmas and stuff.

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And I'm like, oh wait, people

got two things for me this year.

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It's my day as well now.

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Because last year I was pregnant

for Mother's Day and you got

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me a card and that was nice.

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Obviously it's, what?

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It's a bit

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Dan 1: just feel like you're laying on the

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Tilly: Explanations.

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Dan 1: the great

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Tilly: It sounded

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Dan 1: for No.

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It sounded a bit like, yeah last

year I was pregnant and I got a

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card, this year I've got a baby.

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No, but

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Tilly: but you know, it's

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Dan 1: it's

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Tilly: obviously more meaningful

now she's here and with us because

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we were still nervous at that time.

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When we were pregnant on

Mother's Day last year.

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Dan 1: year.

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Tilly: Um, Bebba is very wiggly

and energetic this morning.

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She's on one today, isn't she?

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Yeah, you might need

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Dan 1: Yeah, you might need

to put it back on her boobie.

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Tilly: might need to.

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Dan 1: need to.

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Alright,

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Tilly: With Mumma one second

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I've already eaten

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Dan 1: I know we say that we

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Tilly: we have got

homemade goods this week.

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Dan 1: over One second.

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I know we say we record

this podcast over dinner.

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Tilly: to put that down.

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Dan 1: But as my energetic

wife, I'm Was reminding me.

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We're currently are eating, I'm

eating banana bread that she lovingly

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Tilly: it's, it's monster, I

call it monster banana bread just

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because it's got everything in it.

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So it's, it's your classic

banana bread recipe.

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Which I am quite well known for.

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I make a pretty good banana

bread producer myself.

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Dan 1: Um, and I've

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Tilly: Um, And then I've shoved it full

of everything, because I had loads of

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stuff in the cupboard I wanted to use up.

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So we've got toasted almonds,

macadamias, because we're bougie.

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Dan 1: Um, it's

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Tilly: I know.

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Um, it's got a little bit of halva in

it, not enough that you wouldn't like

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it, but there was like a little bit

left in the tub that I wanted to use up.

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So some pistachio halva.

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Dan 1: It's

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Tilly: also got some dark chocolate chunks

and some hazelnut milk chocolate in it.

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So nutty.

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Dan 1: Mmm.

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Tilly: And then you've got a cup of tea.

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Um,

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Dan 1: Queenie, Princess Kilimanjaro,

what's it to you without sugar?

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Um, I mean I'll still take it, I

just really don't actually like it

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that much, it's a bit too tannin y.

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I

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Tilly: too tan in it.

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Dan 1: Well I more think that I need

to slowly decrease the amount of sugar.

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Tilly: That's fair enough, I

thought I had done that with you.

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Dan 1: No, going from one to zero is

a very, literally a binary difference.

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It needs to be like a,

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Tilly: you down from 2.

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Dan 1: yeah, it needs to be like

a one to three quarters to half

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to a quarter to Because it's

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Tilly: a very different

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Dan 1: different taste of

zero sugar Oh, well I'm sure

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Tilly: Um, and I've got a

lovely cup of coffee, with some

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collagen in it, protein coffee.

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And I've got a square of dark

chocolate, and three brazil nuts.

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Dan 1: three desserts Oh.

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Tilly: I know.

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Wild.

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Bubba's got breast milk for her snack.

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Dan 1: But she's been trying bananas.

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She's not bothered by food.

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She's reaching for the food when we

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Tilly: like, I don't get banana bread.

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Dan 1: been reaching

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Tilly: Not yet.

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Back to your weaning, baby.

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Mum will make you sugar free banana bread.

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Yeah.

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She's not bothered by food.

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She's reaching for food when we have it

now, but I think that's more just because

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she's reaching for stuff than it's food.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: trying to put her

hand in my hot coffee.

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Oh.

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I'm like, mum's coffee.

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She wants it.

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Dan 1: wants it.

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Um,

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Tilly: Um, two, I'm not sure

you're ready for coffee yet.

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Yeah.

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If you like the taste, um, I'll give you

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Dan 1: the teacup.

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You

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Tilly: that's fine.

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You're not having caffeine for a

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Dan 1: Daddy will think you're a bit

weird if you don't taste coffee, to be

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Tilly: Mum thought you'd wait for her

to taste the tea, but there you go.

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Dan 1: of tea, there you go.

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Haha.

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You're a sadist.

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Tilly: Whose side are you gonna pick?

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Or are you gonna like hot brown?

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Dan 1: Oh, yeah.

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Mixing the two.

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Tilly: getting very

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Dan 1: Alright.

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Yeah, she just keeps

kicking the fucking mic.

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I was trying to

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Tilly: feeding her.

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Dan 1: feeding her

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Tilly: Yesterday.

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Did you keep trying to

keep my laptop off there?

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I'm sure.

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Making it difficult for me to multitask.

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Anyway, this week, you're back home again.

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Not in work every day.

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Dan 1: Um, which is nice.

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I still went in on Monday and

then after that I was working

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from home the rest of the week.

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Whereas I was in work two days this week.

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And how did you find

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Tilly: lovely.

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Whereas I was in work two days this week.

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So that was a bit different, wasn't it?

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How did you find it?

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Um,

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Dan 1: that bit before

you go where I'm like, I

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Tilly: think there's always that

bit before I go in where I'm

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like, I don't want to go in.

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Dan 1: an hour drive, um, an

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Tilly: Just as you know, it's an

hour drive, um, and I'm working, and

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then an hour coming home, and it's,

part of me is kind of like, oh, it's

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more productive actually if I just

work from home, because I'm not,

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Dan 1: I'm not, because

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Tilly: because I have, I have a

limited window where I can work for

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when I need to come home and feed her.

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And then I've got to sort of take

two hours out of that for the drive.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Um, so I do work

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Tilly: so I do work once I'm home,

sort of make up the hours, but

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it was, it was, it was good.

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And yesterday I was sitting on some

training that I organized before

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I'd gone on leave, so that was nice

to see that actually happening.

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on Thursday, my mum looked

after her as always and she

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went to see Nanny Gramps and

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Dan 1: I think

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Tilly: loved her.

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40 pounds.

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Whoa,

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Dan 1: hard cash money.

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Tilly: cash money.

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In fresh 20 notes.

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Spend on stuff for you, so you're

gonna get some new baby grows.

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I mean, I won't spend 20

quid on new baby grows,

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Dan 1: babies.

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Forty?

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No, for

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Tilly: quid, even.

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I'm waiting for you to spend 20.

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So, we'll have extra money

left over for fun things.

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Sweeties!

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No, not

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Dan 1: So they'll be, they'll

be in a cupboard for four years.

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Tilly: And mum will have them.

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You can't buy kerosene through

mum's milk., And then, on Friday,

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which I had my dad looking after,

didn't we, for the first time.

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He's been to visit her.

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But he's not looked after by

himself yet, so that was sort of,

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starting out.

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Because we'd like, you know,

all our parents to have

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quite a good involvement, so.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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And amongst these other

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Tilly: Also, my mum's in South East,

so they've already got a really good

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relationship, my mum and my pops.

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But your mum and my dad see her

a lot less, and don't really

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spend time solidly with her.

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Dan 1: think it's a very different

mindset, your, like, my mum and your

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dad versus your pops and your mum.

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Because they've already got young

grandchildren, and so they've had

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that phase of realising that you've

got to go back into that sort of

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Tilly: kids TV

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Dan 1: kids TV presenter,

bubbly, excitable.

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Yeah.

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Whereas I think for both your dad and

my mum, That's still something that

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they're trying to adjust to, as it

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Tilly: Well, yeah, and also

like my, my mom and my pops

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Dan 1: took to being grandparents

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Tilly: took degree

grandparents really well.

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They were super excited

being grandparents,

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Dan 1: be involved with

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Tilly: um, and really wanted to be

involved grandparents and wanted to

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make sure that they look after the

kids and build that relationship

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Dan 1: be that sort of

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Tilly: and to be that sort of

secondary parental figures for them.

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and so they went into it like that

was, I think your mom and my dad don't

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have that same view of grandparents.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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But then I think

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Tilly: For them I think it's that person

that you see infrequently and they

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sort of treat you with and they go.

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Probably.

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Dan 1: Yeah, probably.

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Tilly: Um, which is, you know, how a

lot of grandparents are but I think

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you and me are wanting them to be

more the involved ones if possible.

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Dan 1: more involved.

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Yeah, so we can be less involved though.

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Tilly: Well no, it's just that we know

there's, there's real benefits to multi

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generational bringing up of children.

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Dan 1: children.

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Yeah, and in all seriousness, it's

a handy, given that, you know, I

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mean, your dad's a bit of a way away,

but my mum's only an hour away, so.

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Tilly: And like dad just

stays with us, doesn't he?

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And that's also quite nice.

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My dad lives not by himself.

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He's got lodges, but he's alone.

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Is it where it's not?

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He hasn't got a partner.

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That's harsh.

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But he is like, he's, he's

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Dan 1: he's literally not

alone, given that he's got

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lodgers in his house, but yes.

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Tilly: He's partnerless.

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Um, he's definitely not loveless.

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And so, He just stays with us for

a night or two, around it, which is

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to have dinner with him and see him.

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Um, and it's obviously not such a big

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Dan 1: It's always awkward what to

do in the evening, because we can't

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fit the three of us on the sofa.

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Tilly: us

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Dan 1: So here's to sit on an armchair.

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Now armchairs don't face the projector, it

was fine when we had the mirror behind us.

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Now we don't have the mirror behind us.

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I always just kind of feel a

bit awkward, because I'm like,

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I've reached the end of the day.

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I just want to put something on telly

and just watch something and then I'm

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like, but you can't see what's going on.

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I

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Tilly: I think it's also pretty

quite good for us to not have a TV.

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Dan 1: not have it too deep.

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Ahhhh!

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Ha

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Tilly: I know.

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Dan 1: ha!

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Um, and also you've got

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Tilly: Um, and also you've got to

remember like once Zoe's eating,

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we will be eating at the table, we

won't be eating for the TV at the

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Dan 1: seeing.

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Ahhhh!

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Ha ha ha ha!

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Because

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Tilly: Because that's really

important, family dinner times.

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Yes.

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Dan 1: Ha ha

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Tilly: Yes.

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Oh no.

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Dan 1: Ha ha ha!

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Tilly: But I think it was quite

a shock to dad, wasn't it?

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He's obviously not been

around babies for a long time.

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And he's forgotten, yeah, she's

not running around and stuff

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yet, but she still needs a lot

of involvement and attention.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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So he took her to Rhyme

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Tilly: Um, so he took her to Rhyme

Time, that was just up the road, so

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he pushed her in the pram up to there.

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My dad's got quite bad

arthritis in his ankles,

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Dan 1: so

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Tilly: um, and so walking's

quite hard for him.

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And so by the time we got back he

was kind of a bit tired and sore,

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and I think probably a bit fed up.

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Dan 1: And she was

having quite a needy day.

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Tilly: Yeah.

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Dan 1: And she settles a lot

easier if she's being sort

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of balanced while standing.

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And so I think your dad found that

a bit frustrating because, you know,

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his, his ankles had already hurt

from going up and down to rhyme time

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and then trying to, having to keep

kind of settling her by standing and

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walking to the window to the back door

and all that I think A lot of steps

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versus what he's used to, as it were.

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Tilly: yeah, I mean, hopefully it's

up to get himself in better shape for,

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for granddad times., because we've

wanted him around for a long time.

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Yeah, I've wanted to

be an involved grandad.

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But, you've actually got to be fairly

fit to be a good grandparent, I think.

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Yeah,

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Dan 1: he's got to be fairly fit to

look after the kids in any capacity.

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Yeah, but obviously, this is

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Tilly: Yeah, but obviously it's

just hard to build it yet, I guess.

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Dan 1: but you've still

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Tilly: Like, in some ways, even if

you're young, I don't think you've

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still got some, you've still got

the energy of youth, as it were.

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Dan 1: Like, I'm, I'm intrigued

by what it's going to be like.

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Your grandad versus my grandad.

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Because your grandad, her great, her

great grandad on your side, obviously

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spends a lot of time trying to stay fit.

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Yeah,

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Tilly: is his machine

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Dan 1: Yeah, yeah.

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Which was my grandad's old thing, but

he actually got told off for using it

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too much because he used to use it too

infrequently, and now that he's got a

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pacemaker, I think he got he got told

that he had to just do more light exercise

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as it were rather than trying to every

trying to do lots of rowing every so

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often says oh Nice, she's just been,

she's just spluttered, you'll probably

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hear that on the mic, bit of sick.

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Tilly: probably Burpee, shouldn't she?

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You're happy with yourself

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Dan 1: You're happy with yourself now,

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Tilly: you?

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She is!

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After she expels, she's

always quite happy.

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After she does a massive poo.

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I don't know, he was pretty

happy with himself, aren't you?

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Which is better than being

distressed, I suppose.

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Dan 1: I suppose.

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And so my grandad doesn't

really row anymore.

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Um, and so he tries to stay fit in

terms of, he tries to stretch and he

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wants keep his mobility, but they're

both very healthy for their age.

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Um, just your, your granddad

obviously is doing a lot of exercise.

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Whereas, Mine unfortunately with

the pacemaker and stuff like that

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is limited in kind of what he can do

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Tilly: um.

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Your grandad's,

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Dan 1: grandad's, like

you say, into rowing, TRX,

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Tilly: Yeah, so he's supposed to

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Dan 1: Well, so, yeah, so does he.

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Well I

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Tilly: That's what I was

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Dan 1: isn't it?

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That wasn't his instant drink most

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Tilly: like to drink.

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Dan 1: generation that doesn't

like the evening wine, isn't

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Tilly: every day?

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Dan 1: You have to drink it every day.

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When

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Tilly: drank?

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Christmas.

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We must have

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Dan 1: time you drank?

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Tilly: ago.

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But like,

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Dan 1: Unless I'm with people, you don't

count, unless I'm with like, yeah, unless

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I'm like with other people and other

people are drinking, I won't have one.

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So yeah, it must, it must

be Nick's birthday, I think

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was the last time I drank.

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Tilly: I drank.

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Yeah.

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Um,

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Dan 1: Um, so what was that?

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Yeah, that was mid Feb.

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So yeah, about two weeks ago.

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Tilly: Yeah, it's very

sporadic with us, isn't it?

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Dan 1: Yeah, so sometimes I won't

have drunk for like, two months, and

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sometimes I might have drunk like,

Might drink three times a week or

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something, but it's never really like, uh

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Tilly: Yeah, it's like, even at

Christmas, I'm breastfeeding,

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so I wasn't drinking masses.

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I think I had like a couple

of glasses here and there.

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Dan 1: there.

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Um, and I haven't had a

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Tilly: Um, not like a proper

drink since the New Year's before.

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Yeah, and then after that I've got

preggers with you, so that'll stop that.

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That'll stop that!

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Dan 1: about next weekend?

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Tilly: Um, however, next weekend.

399

:

Next

400

:

Dan 1: got me and Tilly's best

friends to all turn 32 in March.

401

:

Tilly: Erin's birthday.

402

:

So, I've got me and two of my best

friends to all turn 30 within March.

403

:

Dan 1: party in Harbour

404

:

Tilly: So Auntie Erin, Zoe's guardian,

405

:

Dan 1: one.

406

:

Zoe's actually

407

:

Tilly: turns 30 on Friday, on

the 8th, and we're going to be

408

:

partying hard on the Saturday.

409

:

It's going to be great fun.

410

:

sleepover at Nana's, so maybe

on next Sunday on Mother's Day

411

:

we'll do a recording and you

can have a hungover one of me.

412

:

That's going to be like the first

time I've had a proper drink.

413

:

So I'm going to, one, be absolutely

lightweight, and two, just don't

414

:

know how it's going to affect me.

415

:

I don't generally get hangovers.

416

:

Dan 1: I'm just

417

:

Tilly: tired and not my best the next day.

418

:

But this could be it, you know, almost

30, maybe I'm going to get hangovers now.

419

:

Dan 1: be it, you know.

420

:

We're 30, maybe I'm going to get

421

:

Tilly: the big 3 0.

422

:

Dan 1: 30?

423

:

Tilly: I don't, I feel fine about

turning 30, it doesn't bother me.

424

:

I think it's a privilege to age.

425

:

Dan 1: it.

426

:

Really?

427

:

Tilly: better with age.

428

:

Yeah.

429

:

Yeah, I'm pretty sure I did

unless there was, unless something

430

:

Dan 1: sure I did, unless there

was Unless something happened

431

:

in my sleep that I don't recall.

432

:

And then in which case I don't count it

433

:

Tilly: know at all.

434

:

In which case, don't count it.

435

:

Yeah, maybe.

436

:

Dan 1: it.

437

:

I was going to say I'd do

it in the next week or so.

438

:

Yeah.

439

:

That's just unlikely.

440

:

Tilly: She's a pretty good tie.

441

:

I think I want to go,

like, quick shag with her.

442

:

It was we've not shagged.

443

:

I don't think I'm going to shag anyone

444

:

Dan 1: don't get me started on

445

:

Tilly: But tonight, as we

say all the time, maybe.

446

:

But actually, next weekend we are.

447

:

We're

448

:

Dan 1: excited about

449

:

Tilly: Of course I'm excited.

450

:

Dan 1: like three weeks

451

:

Tilly: not three weeks,

it's a week time now.

452

:

Okay,

453

:

Dan 1: but you've been excited about

454

:

Tilly: it.

455

:

Have you not?

456

:

No, because I've just thought

457

:

Dan 1: No, because I've just thought to

myself, if this really matters, we can

458

:

manufacture a way of doing it sooner.

459

:

It does

460

:

Tilly: with her,

461

:

Dan 1: it's nice the idea of her

462

:

Tilly: And it's nice the idea of her

not being here, like that's quite

463

:

exciting to me, like, we can have sex

and there's not risk of her waking

464

:

up and us having to stop and be

interrupted, she won't be here, we can

465

:

do it, we could do it multiple times,

we could do it really slowly, there's

466

:

no need to be like quickly, just put

it in, you know, that's quite exciting.

467

:

Yeah, and then it's Mother's Day!

468

:

First Mother's Day.

469

:

Dan 1: Ooh.

470

:

Ooh.

471

:

Tilly: Move that bib around.

472

:

Vomiting, of course, would be very Well,

473

:

Dan 1: You're vomiting at the thought

474

:

Tilly: we're going

475

:

Dan 1: parents having sex.

476

:

Well that's how you

477

:

Tilly: to make you a sibling, so

478

:

Dan 1: you a sibling, so.

479

:

That's not how,

480

:

Tilly: with a dog.

481

:

We've got

482

:

Dan 1: Fatty boy the dog.

483

:

That's what I

484

:

Tilly: surprise kid.

485

:

Bubba is really discovering

her hands now, isn't

486

:

Dan 1: so strange when she

487

:

Tilly: of like, will cry sometimes and

then stop and just look at her hands.

488

:

And be like, wow.

489

:

Oh my god, my hand.

490

:

My hand.

491

:

Yeah.

492

:

And then suddenly she realizes

that she can move her feet as well.

493

:

And you see her hands and her

feet and she's like, What?

494

:

My mind is blown!

495

:

I think it must be so strange,

because her hands are short

496

:

Dan 1: Touch all four at

once and you'll just melt.

497

:

Tilly: at

498

:

Dan 1: Just psychologically melt.

499

:

Tilly: Psychologically, no.

500

:

Dan 1: going to get crazy

about it next weekend.

501

:

For 10 months.

502

:

Once we do this apart.

503

:

Oh yeah?

504

:

Yeah.

505

:

Tilly: yeah, and she's also got all

her girlfriends coming over, they're

506

:

gonna have a little cuddle with you.

507

:

I used to babysit all my mum's friends

kids when I was, when I was younger,

508

:

so, it's gonna be a long time.

509

:

can babysit mine.

510

:

Dan 1: And then they're all gonna be

like, oh, it's just, just three, four

511

:

more years until this is my, for me.

512

:

Tilly: some of them have already got,

one of them's already got grandkids.

513

:

Dan 1: care.

514

:

Tilly: What we've been talking about this

week is Bubba, isn't it, and her party.

515

:

Dan 1: Baba

516

:

Tilly: The about christenings,

or dedications, or

517

:

Dan 1: okay, I didn't know we

were talking about this on here.

518

:

Tilly: Yeah, sure.

519

:

Dan 1: No, I don't mind

talking about it on here.

520

:

I'm just curious if you

want to talk about it.

521

:

Yeah, sure.

522

:

Tilly: want to talk about?

523

:

No,

524

:

Dan 1: No, I'm happy to.

525

:

I mean, we can talk about all sorts.

526

:

Tilly: talk about.

527

:

Sure.

528

:

There's a rich pool.

529

:

Dan 1: You know, she's been, like I

say, she's been discovering her hands.

530

:

Tilly: our hands,

531

:

Dan 1: She's been sitting up.

532

:

We were talking, she's now, she's, she's

always loved sitting up, but she's now.

533

:

Tilly: That's pretty

534

:

Dan 1: to be vertical, don't you?

535

:

You're not a, you're not

536

:

Tilly: You wanna be in the

world involved in it, don't you?

537

:

You're not passive.

538

:

Dan 1: going to raise a passive child.

539

:

It's

540

:

Tilly: We, I think we were never

gonna raise a passive child.

541

:

She's definitely not that.

542

:

She's very curious, which is great.

543

:

It means curious is a lot more at work.

544

:

I think if you're a curious child,

you have to constantly like show

545

:

things to them and explore and

answer their questions and stuff.

546

:

But I'd much rather that

547

:

Dan 1: don't really need to

worry when they're older.

548

:

Because, if you, if they're curious, they

kind of, it's a lot of hard work up front.

549

:

And then they kind of set

themselves up for life.

550

:

Whereas if you just Very passive

and just let the world go by.

551

:

You then spend your adult life being

like, well you spend your, your, your

552

:

adult parent life kind of worrying like.

553

:

Tilly: I'm not going to do anything.

554

:

Dan 1: Yeah.

555

:

Tilly: Yeah.

556

:

Um, but I think probably most time

passive people raise passive people.

557

:

Dan 1: very curious.

558

:

I don't remember

559

:

Tilly: Um, but we're

both very curious people.

560

:

I can remember, oh, I was speaking to

my mum earlier because we were talking

561

:

about Zoe and how curious she is.

562

:

She's like, oh, it's great,

you were exactly the same.

563

:

I was like, I know, I remember all my

report cards from school being like, She's

564

:

very inquisitive, and they were saying

it in an obviously annoying way, because

565

:

I was constantly asking questions, which

566

:

Dan 1: which

567

:

Tilly: teachers should like, but obviously

I imagine it can't get a big rating.

568

:

She's got loads of little

kids being like, why?

569

:

Why?

570

:

Why?

571

:

Why?

572

:

Why?

573

:

Dan 1: I think you were more curious

probably from an academic perspective,

574

:

I was more curious from a, from a

troublemaking perspective, in that I

575

:

wanted to see the, I wanted, I would, I

liked physical repercussions of things, so

576

:

often that meant things would get broken.

577

:

Because it'd be like, what happens if

this, and the, you know, what happens

578

:

if these two things, or what happens if

I throw this thing, or what happens if,

579

:

you know, I stamp on this thing, what

happens, so it was always a, a curiosity,

580

:

but it was, it was quite annoying for

teachers to have to handle, because it

581

:

was like, It was an exploration of the

physical world, be it like, running

582

:

into bushes, or, you know, picking

stuff out of trees, eating things, or

583

:

Tilly: I definitely wasn't academic,

I wouldn't say academic, with

584

:

Dan 1: wasn't academic.

585

:

More theoretical, as it were.

586

:

Tilly: I wanted to know

why and how things worked.

587

:

Yeah.

588

:

So

589

:

Dan 1: I wasn't as bothered by the

why, I was more bothered by the

590

:

how, and that was the physical how.

591

:

Um, and

592

:

Tilly: and often I'd ask things that they

wouldn't necessarily expect me to ask.

593

:

And I think they would throw

594

:

Dan 1: bit.

595

:

And it made the teachers uncomfortable,

596

:

Tilly: Or it made things,

teachers, uncomfortable.

597

:

I never understood why it made

them uncomfortable, and I'd be

598

:

like, I want to know these things.

599

:

You know, why wouldn't you tell me that?

600

:

Or like, I'd ask some questions

about, I remember in our remake

601

:

in my tea, one of my teachers cry.

602

:

I was just want to know things.

603

:

Why are you crying about it?

604

:

Because I was asking

605

:

Dan 1: Because I was asking

606

:

Tilly: Jesus and stuff.

607

:

Dan 1: and I would

608

:

Tilly: And I've not been raised religious.

609

:

Dan 1: mean, to

610

:

Tilly: to write an essay and I wrote

one about how Jesus could have been

611

:

considered a terrorist of his time.

612

:

Yeah,

613

:

Dan 1: Yeah, no, I mean, you were, you

were, um, you were a bit before your

614

:

time, because there was a, there was

quite a controversial, was it a film

615

:

or series that was all about that?

616

:

know.

617

:

In the last five, ten years?

618

:

I

619

:

Tilly: think they

620

:

Dan 1: Maybe they've stolen it from you.

621

:

Tilly: from you.

622

:

But I think, like, how

623

:

Dan 1: like, how pathetic do you need

to be as a teacher to find that, like,

624

:

Tilly: it's a

625

:

Dan 1: So, like, it's a kid's opinion.

626

:

I

627

:

Tilly: I know.

628

:

And I wasn't mean about it.

629

:

I wasn't being malicious.

630

:

I wasn't being like, God,

he's a piece of shit.

631

:

You know, I was just, like,

you know, explaining what he

632

:

could have been considered.

633

:

And then she was like, how good was that?

634

:

And I was just like, well,

tell me why he isn't.

635

:

Dan 1: he isn't.

636

:

Explain to

637

:

Tilly: Explain to me, like,

why he couldn't be considered.

638

:

I get, like, I'm not

saying he was a bad person.

639

:

Dan 1: saying he's a

640

:

Tilly: Also, everyone who

641

:

Dan 1: who does

642

:

Tilly: does these things

thinks they're right.

643

:

I'm

644

:

Dan 1: not a

645

:

Tilly: Do you know what I mean?

646

:

Terrorism is so generally for a reason.

647

:

Dan 1: not saying I agree with

648

:

Tilly: I'm not saying

I agree with terrorism.

649

:

I'm just saying, the person who's doing

it obviously thinks they're on the right.

650

:

Dan 1: going to think

they're on the right, and

651

:

Tilly: And their followers are

going to think they're on the right.

652

:

And that's just like, if you're a

Christian, you're a follower of Jesus.

653

:

I'm

654

:

Dan 1: a follower of Christ.

655

:

Tilly: follower of Christ.

656

:

But,

657

:

Dan 1: Yeah, I've

658

:

Tilly: Because I've always been like that.

659

:

And I'm not, I don't like accepting

sort of just the standard answer.

660

:

Dan 1: like, being too,

like, rigid in their

661

:

Tilly: Or like, people being too,

like, rigid in their thinking, I'm

662

:

like Yeah, that's a problem that I

663

:

Dan 1: Yeah, that's a problem that

I have , is when people just tell

664

:

me to do things, if I don't know the

why, it doesn't get done very well.

665

:

Tilly: the reason it

666

:

Dan 1: Whereas if someone explains

the why, and I'm like, actually

667

:

that's reasonably good, I'll go after

it wholeheartedly, but if I think

668

:

I'm just being asked to do a job

for a job's sake, it's It's a bit

669

:

of a shit task, really, the output.

670

:

You're like that, you're

seeing something, like, we all

671

:

Tilly: that with your opinions

aren't like we, we'll, we'll

672

:

discuss things and you'll be like,

673

:

Dan 1: this, this,

674

:

Tilly: no.

675

:

And I'll be like, well, think

about this, this, this, and this.

676

:

And

677

:

Dan 1: very strong

678

:

Tilly: oh, okay.

679

:

So you're someone who's got very strong

opinions, but you're not not open to

680

:

other opinions, which is what I really

love about you, because if you believe

681

:

something, you'll really fight for it.

682

:

Dan 1: it.

683

:

Tilly: But if we're discussing

something and you can, and you can see.

684

:

Other reasons, other opinions, and

you'll be like, oh yeah, I never

685

:

thought about it from that angle.

686

:

Dan 1: angry.

687

:

Strong opinions loosely held.

688

:

Tilly: Yeah.

689

:

That's important.

690

:

That should

691

:

Dan 1: I think it's important, because

you've got to be able, because I think

692

:

you need to have, firstly, like you say,

you need to be able to fight for things,

693

:

and secondly, you need to be able to

actually, you know, in this world, so

694

:

many people either don't have an opinion,

or just have an opinion that they either

695

:

won't consider or haven't considered.

696

:

Tilly: Whereas most of mine are either

697

:

Dan 1: Whereas most of mine are either

considered or I'm open to considering them

698

:

Tilly: I ended up having a fun

699

:

Dan 1: hence why a few

weeks ago I ended up

700

:

Tilly: Communist Party.

701

:

Dan 1: Having a fun discussion of the

Reading, the Reading Communist Party.

702

:

Didn't I say?

703

:

Tilly: how you

704

:

Dan 1: Didn't I say?

705

:

Oh yeah, we had the

Jehovah's around as well.

706

:

Discussing with them.

707

:

Tilly: I was trying not

708

:

Dan 1: I was trying not to discuss

with them I was just gonna let them say

709

:

their piece, gonna take their Little

manuscripts and then crack on with my day.

710

:

You were like,

711

:

Tilly: the

712

:

Dan 1: but you don't like women

713

:

Tilly: didn't say that, I didn't

714

:

Dan 1: women

715

:

Tilly: like women.

716

:

I said I don't think it's necessarily

the best environment for women.

717

:

The guy at the back had a really annoying

face, I just, I couldn't ignore him.

718

:

I was like, alright, let's fucking go.

719

:

That's the girl.

720

:

The guy at the front was

alright, he was quite friendly.

721

:

Nice guy, you know, cool coat.

722

:

Thank you.

723

:

But, can I swing it back?

724

:

I was like, you've got a

smug little pricky face.

725

:

I was just like, I

726

:

Dan 1: like, I can't be bothered

with this shit right now, but

727

:

I don't wanna be rude to you.

728

:

So say your piece.

729

:

I'll take your little pamphlet,

I'll read it while I'm next, taking

730

:

a shit, and then I'll toss it.

731

:

Tilly: and

732

:

Dan 1: And you were like, let's

have a discussion about whether

733

:

Jehovahs a great for women or not,

734

:

Which brings us background to

the topic of christening or so.

735

:

Um, I guess.

736

:

We, um, I believe in a God, and I

think it is likely the Christian God.

737

:

I, um, usually quite wary of discussing

that because when you talk about, um,

738

:

religion, people, I'm very hesitant to

say what I believe in because People

739

:

aren't asking you what you believe in,

people are trying to align you with

740

:

what they believe your beliefs are.

741

:

Yeah.

742

:

I.

743

:

e.

744

:

they've got a preconception

of what Christianity is or

745

:

whatever religion it is.

746

:

And so people are often quite taken aback

when you kind of go, Oh, I'm this religion

747

:

or that religion because they kind of go,

I didn't, I didn't think you would be.

748

:

Tilly: Mmm.

749

:

And

750

:

Dan 1: And that sort of thing and that's

because people always have their own

751

:

kind of, It's something that everyone's

got a view of, and people don't ever

752

:

really, seek to understand what your

view of it is, people just then decide

753

:

to align you with their view of it.

754

:

Tilly: Yeah.

755

:

Dan 1: Um, so, and for that reason, I

don't actually, you know, I'm, I'm yet

756

:

to find a church that I kind of agree

with, because I think that it's something

757

:

that can span so many viewpoints

and can be so different in, um, how

758

:

people decide to live their faith.

759

:

and I think that it's an individual.

760

:

You know, the whole premise of it is

that you have a relationship with whoever

761

:

your deity is, as it were, like, whoever

you believe in, that's a personal thing.

762

:

.

so, I'm always hesitant

763

:

Tilly: hesitant

764

:

Dan 1: to create this group think whereby,

you know, I entrust one person who stands

765

:

on a stage to tell me how I should feel

Cause, I mean, the way I think about it

766

:

is, I would never get married to somebody

that I never got to physically meet.

767

:

And the only way I got to know

about them was through someone else.

768

:

Do you see what I mean?

769

:

Like, can you imagine if you were

married, you never met the person, and

770

:

every once a week you just went to a

service with loads of other people.

771

:

And they constantly told you how

you should feel about your partner.

772

:

Tilly: It's got

773

:

Dan 1: It's kind of a very

weird concept, as it were.

774

:

That's kind of how I think about it.

775

:

And I just think that it's

an individual relationship.

776

:

And therefore I'm very hesitant about it.

777

:

But, um, and that's for a load of,

you know, deeper and, Other reasons to

778

:

do with my dad earlier on in life and

lots of things that I don't really want

779

:

to go into right now because that is

like a whole podcast episode of shite.

780

:

Um, and so given that I want to do a

blessing, which is effectively the idea

781

:

of, you know, um, To provide so the idea

being that God blesses her and I hope

782

:

you know if she was to unfortunately

die or whatever She could go to heaven

783

:

Because obviously, you know, I'm not

I'm not trying to say that kids who

784

:

die don't but you don't know as it were

785

:

Tilly: to me this

786

:

Dan 1: To me, this is just maybe

a way of increasing the chances.

787

:

Yeah, hedging your bets effectively

Now, the other, the options are kind

788

:

of, to christen, to dedicate, or to, um,

789

:

Tilly: or what

790

:

Dan 1: bless, or what was the other one?

791

:

Tilly: So, um, you can

792

:

Dan 1: Oh yeah, naming ceremony.

793

:

So, um,

794

:

Tilly: You know, there are all

these options, and so christening

795

:

is one of them, which, you know,

796

:

Dan 1: I don't want to do because

I think you should have the choice.

797

:

So for example, I'm not baptized

just because I'm not yet at the point

798

:

that I think I'm willing to make

that commitment because I don't.

799

:

You know, I don't feel like I'm, you know,

I don't have a church, so I wouldn't,

800

:

I wouldn't know where I'd get baptized.

801

:

I don't really have a Christian

community that I'm part of, partly

802

:

because I want to find my own,

define my own relationship first.

803

:

Therefore, I don't want to enforce

kind of any viewpoints or beliefs or

804

:

have her make decisions before she's

able to, um, and therefore blessing

805

:

is the one that I think suits best.

806

:

I get that obviously it's not a solid

agreement whereby the church suddenly

807

:

say at the age of 16 when she says,

I'm not religious, they go, well, you,

808

:

your parents made a decision for you.

809

:

Tilly: Tough shit you are now.

810

:

Dan 1: But, um, but still, it's

just a case of, you know, having her

811

:

actually make the choice for herself.

812

:

Yeah, more boo boo.

813

:

And also I guess

814

:

Tilly: also, I guess it fits

better into our blend of

815

:

religiousness and non religiousness.

816

:

Because, although I wouldn't have had a

problem, I wouldn't have had a problem.

817

:

If you decided you wanted

her to be christened,

818

:

Dan 1: meant a

819

:

Tilly: if that meant a lot to

you, absolutely fine with it.

820

:

Like, you know, we got

married in a church.

821

:

Dan 1: got

822

:

Tilly: And so, through our

relationship we've made it work.

823

:

Because it's always been

a discussion for us.

824

:

You know, when we first met, I

remember, not when we first met,

825

:

but we'd been dating for a while.

826

:

I remember sitting down with

him and going, Look, like,

827

:

I know you're religious.

828

:

I have no issue with that.

829

:

You know, I'm supportive of that.

830

:

I'm not religious.

831

:

You know, is this at some point going to

be a , problem for us in our relationship?

832

:

I mean, you know, that was a

discussion we had at that point.

833

:

You know,

834

:

Dan 1: wasn't because

835

:

Tilly: we decided it wasn't because I was

fine with being part of the community.

836

:

Like I attended church in the

past and I'm happy to do so again.

837

:

Dan 1: Because for me it's

838

:

Tilly: Because for me, it's

not just the religion, it's the

839

:

community you build around it.

840

:

Dan 1: you go.

841

:

And this is just the

842

:

Tilly: this is just the next step

in our discussion for us, isn't it?

843

:

Dan 1: Yeah.

844

:

Um, definitely feels

845

:

Tilly: It definitely feels more

fitting for us to have a dedication.

846

:

Dan 1: a dedication.

847

:

Yeah.

848

:

So I need to get on with that

at some point, or I can just

849

:

make it her first birthday.

850

:

Tilly: sort of discussing it on

and off haven't we for a while.

851

:

And then we

852

:

Dan 1: we

853

:

Tilly: I know we could get a christened

and you know, like you said earlier,

854

:

if people get christened and they don't

necessarily feel dedicated to the church.

855

:

But I think you and me both believe

that if you make a commitment,

856

:

then you've made a commitment.

857

:

Dan 1: Yeah,

858

:

Tilly: And so we don't want to

make that commitment for her.

859

:

Dan 1: yeah, so gonna get a blessed

slash dedicated at some point

860

:

Tilly: it means we can properly

formally give her her godparents.

861

:

Yeah.

862

:

And her guardians and stuff.

863

:

You do?

864

:

Dan 1: Oh,

865

:

Tilly: it's a party.

866

:

It's a

867

:

Dan 1: It's a party, party, party.

868

:

To celebrate you.

869

:

Hi guys, thank you very

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870

:

We really appreciate it.

871

:

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872

:

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873

:

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874

:

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875

:

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876

:

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879

:

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881

:

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882

:

Cheers.

883

:

Enjoy the rest of the episode

884

:

Tilly: And funny's.

885

:

Yeah, we've got tons of

886

:

Dan 1: And we've got a chuntering baby.

887

:

Tilly: What do you want to start with?

888

:

Dan 1: Um, okay.

889

:

So.

890

:

I'll start with my funny.

891

:

Um, this week.

892

:

She, as she's been getting

control of her hands.

893

:

She's mesmerized by them.

894

:

However, she's not got control of

her fingers So she often tries to

895

:

squeeze them together and it results

in the middle finger just popping out

896

:

Tilly: But then

897

:

Dan 1: But then she also stares very

intently at her hand and beyond her hand.

898

:

So it looks like

899

:

Tilly: sick.

900

:

So it looks terrible.

901

:

Ruining my

902

:

Dan 1: Ruining my story

baby girl, which is sick

903

:

Tilly: So

904

:

Dan 1: So it looks like she's just

swearing at you because she'll just

905

:

pop a middle finger and look straight

at you So we've got a very good photo

906

:

while she was With my mum, where she was

just staring through her finger at me.

907

:

Staring through a middle finger.

908

:

Okay, baby girl's going for a feed.

909

:

So that's my funny.

910

:

Middle finger baby.

911

:

Tilly: just

912

:

Dan 1: Just swearing at people.

913

:

She looks so intent when she does it as

914

:

Tilly: it.

915

:

Yeah.

916

:

Or she smiles as well.

917

:

She

918

:

Dan 1: She just pops

that middle finger up.

919

:

Tilly: It's like when she does a bit of

stick where she holds it in her mouth and

920

:

then smiles and then just lets it out.

921

:

That's just a stick that just sort

of like waterfalls out of her mouth.

922

:

She's

923

:

Dan 1: do you want?

924

:

We've just changed your nappy.

925

:

There's booby there.

926

:

You need to sleep.

927

:

Tilly: getting, yeah, that's it,

she's getting tired so she's getting

928

:

a bit, I don't know what I want.

929

:

Dan 1: what I want.

930

:

Tilly: So my low and funny

are kind of together though.

931

:

Dan 1: Is there any way

that you can keep her quiet?

932

:

Like, just, is there anything that we can

just put in her mouth for her to chew?

933

:

Tilly: just really shove her onto

934

:

Dan 1: Yeah,

935

:

Tilly: yeah.

936

:

Dan 1: in milk.

937

:

Boopy drowning.

938

:

Um, she was

939

:

Tilly: was feeding her, I was, maybe

it was like Sunday or something.

940

:

And suddenly, my god, she just

like bit down or something on my

941

:

nipple and it was such searing pain.

942

:

And she doesn't think she's got teeth here

but it felt like she bloody had teeth.

943

:

It was like, you were

in the room weren't you?

944

:

And I sort of, so I went, GASP!

945

:

Really loudly.

946

:

Because it was funny, it was

funny but it really hurt.

947

:

And again, she just sort of went,

she was shocked at the noise I

948

:

made, sort of popped up and looked

at me and then sort of smiled.

949

:

Dan 1: I have enjoyed that.

950

:

How she's mastered the sort

of, Pop off roll and look.

951

:

Yeah, so now if she's kind of had enough

feeding and we're trying to feed her for

952

:

whatever reason like maybe For example,

you've come back with a full boob

953

:

Tilly: I'm like, please take that baby!

954

:

Like the shit she's doing right now.

955

:

Dan 1: Or if I come into the room

and she wants to see what's going

956

:

on She'll just pop off roll her head

around and look really curiously

957

:

Tilly: Yeah, so that's kind of like, It

was mainly funny, but it did really hurt.

958

:

that was fun, wasn't it?

959

:

Dan 1: my low and funny

960

:

Tilly: I'm glad we've got

funny notes, this is good.

961

:

Dan 1: Was her um

962

:

Tilly: Her,

963

:

Dan 1: Her, her new Weird breathing Where

she just decides to I think stop breathing

964

:

Tilly: then she'll just start

breathing normally for like

965

:

Dan 1: normally for like 10 30

seconds And then do it again Seems

966

:

like she's started realizing that

she can control how she breathes.

967

:

Tilly: control how she breathes.

968

:

I

969

:

Dan 1: thought she was just

having fun holding her breath.

970

:

Tilly: her breath.

971

:

Might be.

972

:

In which case, let's not do that.

973

:

That's not fun.

974

:

That's when you start sleeping

by yourself in your cot, Mum and

975

:

Daddy will have a heart attack.

976

:

Um.

977

:

But yeah, it's very weird she does that.

978

:

So that was quite

979

:

Dan 1: So that was my low funny

980

:

Tilly: doesn't it?

981

:

Dan 1: we're like, what

the fuck's going on?

982

:

I was getting ready to

really clap her back.

983

:

Yeah.

984

:

Tilly: clap her

985

:

Dan 1: then she just

starts breathing again.

986

:

Tilly: she just starts screaming at me.

987

:

Look mate, you've

988

:

Dan 1: it?

989

:

No, you've got one to go, you

990

:

Tilly: low.

991

:

I've

992

:

Dan 1: you just combied

993

:

Tilly: combis.

994

:

Dan 1: lazy, that is.

995

:

Classic, you always do this.

996

:

Come out like some fucking positive mother

997

:

Tilly: not, but like, I just think

we've been really lucky with her.

998

:

Dan 1: with her.

999

:

We have, yeah.

:

00:34:30,030 --> 00:34:31,433

But just bitch about mundane.

:

00:34:34,424 --> 00:34:34,891

You can bitch

:

00:34:34,938 --> 00:34:36,166

Tilly: can bitch about

her hair if you want.

:

00:34:38,784 --> 00:34:41,170

Yeah, like most babies, she's

got like, random bits of hair.

:

00:34:41,170 --> 00:34:43,556

Bits have rubbed off, bits have gotten

really long, bits have only started

:

00:34:43,556 --> 00:34:45,178

to grow in, so she's got real patches.

:

00:34:45,178 --> 00:34:47,889

She's got sort of a really bad

rugby player mullet, hasn't she?

:

00:34:47,947 --> 00:34:49,559

Dan 1: really bad rugby player mullet.

:

00:34:49,609 --> 00:34:52,158

Tilly: kind of the vibe,

I just don't want to watch

:

00:34:52,460 --> 00:34:52,783

Dan 1: Bit

:

00:34:53,074 --> 00:34:53,380

Tilly: I

:

00:34:53,428 --> 00:34:53,751

Dan 1: hair.

:

00:34:53,751 --> 00:34:55,362

As long as I don't

:

00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:56,891

Tilly: be Milo if you want, I

can just bitch about a haircut.

:

00:34:56,891 --> 00:35:00,609

We might as well get a little bitching

in now so she can understand us.

:

00:35:00,845 --> 00:35:01,812

Dan 1: your high then?

:

00:35:01,812 --> 00:35:02,457

My high?

:

00:35:02,466 --> 00:35:04,647

Tilly: Because then we'll have

Slager off behind her back.

:

00:35:05,343 --> 00:35:06,647

what's been your high?

:

00:35:07,009 --> 00:35:07,628

My high?

:

00:35:07,971 --> 00:35:10,504

I really enjoyed her like, she's been

talking for a while, but this week her

:

00:35:10,504 --> 00:35:12,009

talking seems to have changed quite a bit.

:

00:35:12,009 --> 00:35:14,552

She started doing sort of more

like, sort of meowing, mewing, sort

:

00:35:14,552 --> 00:35:16,362

of like quite cute little meows.

:

00:35:16,947 --> 00:35:17,424

Noises.

:

00:35:17,728 --> 00:35:18,366

Not a lot she's doing

:

00:35:18,562 --> 00:35:20,752

Dan 1: going to spit up some

of her cottage cheese, is sick.

:

00:35:20,752 --> 00:35:20,984

I'm

:

00:35:21,014 --> 00:35:21,252

Tilly: Alright.

:

00:35:21,252 --> 00:35:22,700

I'll hold the bib like this.

:

00:35:22,792 --> 00:35:25,344

Dan 1: Yeah, so she's definitely

decided that she's started, she's

:

00:35:25,344 --> 00:35:26,611

learnt to change how she speaks

:

00:35:27,301 --> 00:35:28,701

Tilly: lot of variation in noises now.

:

00:35:29,663 --> 00:35:30,952

So I think that's been really sweet.

:

00:35:30,952 --> 00:35:31,616

It's been nice.

:

00:35:31,655 --> 00:35:31,999

Dan 1: nice.

:

00:35:31,999 --> 00:35:32,343

That's

:

00:35:32,350 --> 00:35:35,757

Tilly: sort of going, I can't

do them, but she's very cute.

:

00:35:35,757 --> 00:35:36,687

What about you?

:

00:35:36,687 --> 00:35:38,368

What's your high been?

:

00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:40,085

Dan 1: Um, low first.

:

00:35:40,090 --> 00:35:40,104

Tilly: fast.

:

00:35:40,504 --> 00:35:40,933

Okay.

:

00:35:40,933 --> 00:35:41,199

I think

:

00:35:42,209 --> 00:35:44,514

Dan 1: I think yesterday was a bit

frustrating, because I was like,

:

00:35:45,028 --> 00:35:47,533

I'm kind of meant to be working,

but at the same time, I had to

:

00:35:47,590 --> 00:35:48,781

try and make sure that everything

:

00:35:48,810 --> 00:35:49,489

Tilly: make sure

:

00:35:49,714 --> 00:35:51,542

Dan 1: tickety boo, because you

weren't in a good mood, were you?

:

00:35:51,863 --> 00:35:52,541

Tilly: to come

:

00:35:52,695 --> 00:35:53,790

Dan 1: So I wasn't able to work, and

:

00:35:53,897 --> 00:35:55,254

Tilly: wasn't able to work

:

00:35:55,500 --> 00:35:56,147

Dan 1: And leave you with,

:

00:35:56,271 --> 00:35:57,289

Tilly: you with Your

:

00:35:57,347 --> 00:36:00,309

Dan 1: yeah, your grandad, because you

weren't, you weren't too happy yesterday.

:

00:36:00,852 --> 00:36:02,481

You weren't in your most pliable of moods.

:

00:36:02,728 --> 00:36:04,218

Tilly: just trying to make sure that

:

00:36:04,233 --> 00:36:04,900

Dan 1: frustrating.

:

00:36:06,114 --> 00:36:06,390

Tilly: And

:

00:36:06,442 --> 00:36:07,395

Dan 1: then, Maihai.

:

00:36:07,919 --> 00:36:11,138

I think I've just enjoyed being back

more, because it means that I see

:

00:36:11,138 --> 00:36:15,414

her in the, you know, we spend time

in the evenings, in the mornings.

:

00:36:15,522 --> 00:36:16,057

Tilly: more family

:

00:36:16,176 --> 00:36:17,528

Dan 1: There's just a

lot more family time..

:

00:36:18,285 --> 00:36:19,952

Rather than just our family walks.

:

00:36:20,590 --> 00:36:20,904

Tilly: Yeah?

:

00:36:23,076 --> 00:36:25,219

Dan 1: So do you want to do your

skiddly bop bop and then we can get

:

00:36:25,219 --> 00:36:26,553

out of here before baby kicks off

:

00:36:26,575 --> 00:36:30,329

Tilly: can get outta here before

baby kicks off Skidly bop bop

:

00:36:30,333 --> 00:36:32,829

Dan 1: like how you, the last bit,

the scatch up, but you moved away.

:

00:36:33,059 --> 00:36:40,276

Tilly: Aaaaaaaah Right when you

get this thing and they go Have a

:

00:36:40,638 --> 00:36:43,748

good time, professional musician.

:

00:36:44,767 --> 00:36:45,433

So this week, we've had,

:

00:36:45,519 --> 00:36:47,929

Dan 1: I would like to apologise

for any of those noises that have

:

00:36:47,954 --> 00:36:49,214

Tilly: We've had

:

00:36:49,395 --> 00:36:50,853

Dan 1: through your audio,

through your headphones.

:

00:36:51,104 --> 00:36:54,195

Tilly: of explosive poos, haven't we?

:

00:36:54,195 --> 00:36:55,491

There's some big old poos.

:

00:36:56,233 --> 00:36:59,352

I think that the top one this week has

to be, I can't remember what outfit

:

00:36:59,352 --> 00:37:00,210

she's wearing,, But we were just

:

00:37:00,323 --> 00:37:00,537

Dan 1: a

:

00:37:00,610 --> 00:37:01,295

Tilly: having a feed on the sofa,

:

00:37:01,394 --> 00:37:02,464

Dan 1: and she sort of did

:

00:37:02,581 --> 00:37:06,786

Tilly: And she sort of did a little

wriggle, And then it, And this big poo

:

00:37:06,786 --> 00:37:08,138

came out, but it didn't seem that big.

:

00:37:09,252 --> 00:37:11,491

And then I felt my hand getting

a bit wet, holding her behind.

:

00:37:11,491 --> 00:37:12,976

I was like, oh, it's

obviously leaked a bit.

:

00:37:12,976 --> 00:37:14,738

And it turns out it had gone

all the way up her back and

:

00:37:14,738 --> 00:37:15,833

it had even gone into her ear.

:

00:37:16,376 --> 00:37:17,881

I don't understand how she managed it.

:

00:37:18,148 --> 00:37:20,748

We've got poo in the ear, it's

all up the neck, in the ear.

:

00:37:20,748 --> 00:37:23,748

I was doing re uns on the first clean, so

I sort of like picked her back up again

:

00:37:23,748 --> 00:37:25,610

and I was like, I've got poo on me still.

:

00:37:27,286 --> 00:37:29,086

And she had it all over her

shoulder and in her ear.

:

00:37:30,114 --> 00:37:31,486

Dan 1: That's very impressive

:

00:37:31,695 --> 00:37:31,991

Tilly: very impressive.

:

00:37:31,991 --> 00:37:32,933

It must have been some real force.

:

00:37:33,057 --> 00:37:34,733

Because it didn't feel

like it was that forceful.

:

00:37:35,229 --> 00:37:38,143

But we've had quite a few, sort

of, explosive poos this week.

:

00:37:39,667 --> 00:37:40,543

We had one last night.

:

00:37:41,114 --> 00:37:44,010

When we were going around doing our little

weekly food shop, which was in the poos.

:

00:37:44,010 --> 00:37:46,019

And I thought I could smell poo.

:

00:37:46,752 --> 00:37:47,876

But sometimes I just smell like poo.

:

00:37:48,162 --> 00:37:48,467

Well.

:

00:37:48,933 --> 00:37:50,219

So I wasn't sure if I

said poo or me somewhere.

:

00:37:50,610 --> 00:37:52,791

And I got you to smell her bum,

but you couldn't smell anything.

:

00:37:52,829 --> 00:37:55,124

And it turns out she had gone for a poo,

and then it leaked through everything.

:

00:37:56,162 --> 00:37:56,381

Dan 1: But

:

00:37:56,429 --> 00:37:57,200

Tilly: was a really

liquidy poo, wasn't it?

:

00:37:57,705 --> 00:38:00,048

The nappy seems to hold in,

like, the solids of the poo.

:

00:38:00,333 --> 00:38:00,524

And it's

:

00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:02,153

Dan 1: it's a bit like

one of those juicing

:

00:38:02,238 --> 00:38:03,514

Tilly: like a, yeah, like a shitty piss.

:

00:38:06,091 --> 00:38:07,100

Dan 1: It's like a juicing clock.

:

00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:08,743

Tilly: technically scatch up,

but she's done some weighty

:

00:38:09,276 --> 00:38:09,914

nappies this week, hasn't she?

:

00:38:09,967 --> 00:38:10,529

Dan 1: She has.

:

00:38:10,586 --> 00:38:11,091

They've been

:

00:38:11,111 --> 00:38:12,438

Tilly: should, we should

start weighing them.

:

00:38:12,624 --> 00:38:15,633

Dan 1: Started throwing something at

me just so you can feel the weight

:

00:38:15,638 --> 00:38:16,752

Tilly: But there was that one

that you didn't throw because

:

00:38:16,752 --> 00:38:17,410

you thought it might splatter.

:

00:38:17,776 --> 00:38:21,043

Dan 1: Yeah, there was so much one morning

that I wouldn't Usually we bundle them

:

00:38:21,043 --> 00:38:23,643

up into a ball and sort of throw them

on the floor in the corner of the room

:

00:38:23,776 --> 00:38:25,781

to be picked up in a A big group of

:

00:38:26,176 --> 00:38:26,605

Tilly: nappies.

:

00:38:26,867 --> 00:38:31,019

Dan 1: nappies, which sounds really

disgusting to have a little corner

:

00:38:31,019 --> 00:38:32,124

full of nappies in your bedroom.

:

00:38:32,781 --> 00:38:33,310

Tilly: I, that's fine.

:

00:38:33,514 --> 00:38:37,467

Dan 1: Um, but that one I wouldn't, I

wouldn't throw because I was, firstly,

:

00:38:37,467 --> 00:38:39,124

I couldn't see it like I do the others.

:

00:38:39,886 --> 00:38:42,838

And secondly, I thought that if I

did it would actually, like, splash.

:

00:38:43,152 --> 00:38:43,429

Tilly: yeah.

:

00:38:44,429 --> 00:38:44,657

I think we

:

00:38:44,714 --> 00:38:46,800

Dan 1: Because I think you

maximise your absorbency.

:

00:38:47,229 --> 00:38:49,629

Tilly: People do like, you know the

chart and you must kid against the wall.

:

00:38:50,172 --> 00:38:50,886

A little chart for like

:

00:38:50,914 --> 00:38:53,391

Dan 1: that can be a new

segment in our, in our podcast.

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Heaviest Nappy.

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They've got, like, top gear.

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And

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Tilly: They like top gear and then

they have like their thing of like,

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who's driven the track fastest.

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00:39:00,572 --> 00:39:05,648

Dan 1: weaning, we can have smellier

snappy in terms of like, what food

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Tilly: how do we measure that though?

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How do we measure a smelly nap?

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Dan 1: because it is fast.

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Yeah.

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Tilly: How interested.

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00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:12,661

Dan 1: got any particular

cat chats for me?

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00:39:12,661 --> 00:39:13,441

No, I'm not

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00:39:13,686 --> 00:39:15,762

Tilly: Oh, she also managed to shit

herself when she sent anagrams.

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00:39:16,543 --> 00:39:18,619

We hadn't given mum a spare

nap of their outfit, had we?

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So she'd sort of sit and start

shitting her clothes for a little bit.

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She didn't care.

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But, you know, not ideal.

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. We'll sign off for the week.

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Baby's distressed.

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Have a lovely week.

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Catch you at week 21.

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Dan 1: the week.

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Baby's distressed.

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Have a lovely week.

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00:39:31,174 --> 00:39:32,506

Catch you at week 21.

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00:39:33,820 --> 00:39:36,506

Oh, and, well, baby's going

swimming this afternoon, so we'll

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be able to update you on that.

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00:39:37,487 --> 00:39:39,944

Often we say we're going to update

you on things, and those things don't

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00:39:39,944 --> 00:39:41,201

happen, and so they don't feature in the

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00:39:41,427 --> 00:39:43,114

Tilly: that happen, and so there's

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00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:43,384

Dan 1: be swimming.

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00:39:43,384 --> 00:39:44,944

No, so, we're going to try swimming.

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We may not talk about it next week.

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00:39:46,815 --> 00:39:49,567

Or we may manage it and we still

may not talk about it next week.

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00:39:49,864 --> 00:39:50,539

Tilly: Who knows?

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00:39:50,539 --> 00:39:51,214

Let's see

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00:39:51,339 --> 00:39:51,501

Dan 1: knows?

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00:39:51,663 --> 00:39:52,758

Let's see what happens next week.

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Stay tuned.

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00:39:54,025 --> 00:39:54,307

Bye!

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