Episode 13

12 - Roasts, Resets & Relationships: Mental load resets, Zola's a party baby, and 2024s metrics

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Welcome to Episode 12 - Baby's first 81st birthday, a celebration of four generations.

🎙️ New Episode Drop: "Roasts, Resets & Relationships"! 🍼 In Episode 12, we're diving deep into the delightful chaos of parenting, life's unexpected turns, and keeping the spark alive in a relationship that's as unpredictable as a baby's sleep schedule. Join us as we share:

1️⃣ Juggling Parenting with Personal Space: We're chatting about our attempts to find personal time amidst the parenting pandemonium. From moments of tenderness to the test of patience, hear how we navigate through the week with a mix of love and laughter. 😅👶

2️⃣ Relationship Real-Talk and Resets: Delve into our candid discussions on maintaining a healthy relationship dynamic. We're laying it all on the table, from our reset rituals to the need for couple's therapy, all served with a side of British wit. ❤️💬

3️⃣ Granny’s 81st: A Bittersweet Affair: Experience the highs and lows of family gatherings as we celebrate Granny's 81st birthday. It's a heartfelt reflection on family, the passage of time, and the joy a new generation brings to the table. 🎂👵

This episode is not just about the roast dinner we're planning (though that's a highlight too!) but about roasting our own habits, resting our weary parental heads, and rekindling relationships. It's a real slice of life with a dash of humor and a sprinkle of love.

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Transcript
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Sorry, Tilly is asleep, so you have a stock voice doing the intro.

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This week Zola goes to an 81st birthday

and an engagement party, all in one day!

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Dan and Tilly discuss the importance

of being able to reset as parents.

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And also discuss their

new metrics for:

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Settle in and enjoy.

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Tilly: There we

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Dan 1: We're on.

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Tilly: week

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Dan 1: It's week

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13.

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isn't it?

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Last week was week 12.

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Tilly: make sense.

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I remember last

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Dan 1: had this week, I had

a bit of a grumbly baby.

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Tilly: that

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Dan 1: probably my fault.

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If you remember, last week, or the week

before, my funny was that I found it

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funny that she bit my nose, nose the week

when I was actually feeling a bit ill.

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So, we had a bit grumbly baby at the

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Tilly: Grumbler Peak the

beginning of the week.

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I've had some very unproductive

days of her just wanting to be

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on me and feeding the whole time.

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Dan 1: Then she started

to get a bit pet up.

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Oh, she's looking a bit worse again.

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Tilly: Yeah, she had a long day yesterday.

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Dan 1: Alrighty.

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So, other than coping out,

what else have we been up to?

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I guess let's start with the situation.

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So, I've just got the canned cereal, a

bit later in the day today now, Sunday.

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Later in the day, you've already

had breakfast, haven't you?

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What?

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You see?

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Yeah, we've tea.

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Yeah, I did.

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What's your tea?

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Oh.

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Is normal tea 10 and stuff like

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Tilly: Some collagen protein

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in my coffee.

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sort of chip and bite things.

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And then I've got a cup of

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tea.

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Although not regular tea, I don't

like English un British, I don't even

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Dan 1: So, my cereal combination,

exciting, is Honey Loops, again,

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the Alphaloot, Grave, and the

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Alknuckle.

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Tilly: pretty good

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Dan 1: mix, I

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Tilly: Yeah, it's, it's

praise, rather than crave.

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Uh.

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They've gone real close.

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Dan 1: and probably Honey

Loops instead of Honey Hoops.

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Tilly: No, it's Honey Hoop.

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But I'm not sure what the actual

brand of the one is called.

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Yep, she's having can

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Dan 1: then, baby girls on the horse.

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Tilly: have we got?

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Um, it's good.

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Yeah?

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Um, well, I'm obviously but other than

that, that's it, isn't it, had a sort

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of day full of, yes, family, family fun.

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Dan 1: else has happened?

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quite an interesting day yesterday.

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Yesterday, um,

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Tilly: we went down my granny's 81st

birthday, which was lovely because my

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great uncle and his son, so my second

cousin, had driven down and we were all

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there, so it was a big family, well I

say big family, it wasn't a huge family,

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but for my granny it was big wasn't it.

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Um, a cake, I made a rich chocolate

cake, that's what granny always wants,

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every year is a rich chocolate cake.

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Some kind of nut.

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Um, yeah, I was raised by

our youngest niece, Millie.

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I'd spent the day with my

mum and nana the day before.

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Mum goes after her on And they

were going for a charity book.

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Oh, you can have a, you can pick any book.

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She said any time she could

use the kids, there was was in.

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And she came back with this little toy.

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And mum went, oh, is that

what you want instead?

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And she went, no, for baby Zola.

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My mum's like, I was doing

it one day, and I over, look.

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So, it was the best part getting her

whatever for a little toy for her.

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There's her.

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Dan 1: then even when she went

to the checkout, and the lady at

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the checkout was like, Oh, this

is very nice, is this for you?

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She went, No,

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it's Zola.

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Tilly: can't be known as just

Zola, it's always baby Zola.

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Um, so when we arrived yesterday, Lily

ran up to us very very excited with a toy.

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I didn't realise she'd chosen it,

I thought she'd just stolen it from

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a pile of toys at the old home.

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When we were leaving, I was

like, are we taking this?

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And then mum said, oh yeah,

she bought that for like, okay.

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She's starting to grip.

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We'll just play with the mic

a She's definitely starting

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to grab my hair a lot more.

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Um, but yeah, that's it for it, and then

today we planned to have a completely lazy

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day, but actually it's already afternoon

and we've not used the double chair.

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So yes.

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We had a grumpy morning, now we're okay.

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gonna do the podcast,

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: then I'm gonna

make this a nice slap of

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Dan 1: I've got a call,

And I enjoy our road.

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Tilly: Black Widow?

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I mean,

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Dan 1: We'll be watching it.

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Tilly: do both.

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We've watched A Chance at My

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Dan 1: Yeah, we'll be watching

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Tilly: We could try.

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Have we got time for

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Dan 1: like, what, when?

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At three o'clock?

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Let's say

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Tilly: isn't it?

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Yeah.

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So

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I'm going to be two and

then we'll watch the

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Dan 1: answer did

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not

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Tilly: White House Gone Fishing in bed.

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Dan 1: not good.

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Yep.

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Tilly: And it's a great

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bedtime watch, because

are trying to do well.

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I mean, I managed one night.

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Dan 1: have, haven't we?

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Tilly: But yeah, oh, to

that in and we'll do our

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Dan 1: Yeah, I've been a bit

crampy this morning and put a

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bit of a downer on things, but

I've tried, tried to brighten up.

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Tilly: It rides up for the

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Dan 1: work out to mentally

reset and then get good at doing

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that as quickly as possible.

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Because there'll you're just not having

it, you need to quickly be able to try

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Tilly: Yeah, absolutely.

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I find a shower really helps me.

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For me it's just

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booze, YouTube.

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Dan 1: a bit of comedy on YouTube,

even like a 10 15 minute clip, have

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a bit of a laugh, take a bit of a

breath, and get back on with it.

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Tilly: You're generally a more comfy

person than I am, aren't you, in a way?

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Mm

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Dan 1: hmm.

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Tilly: That is your temperament.

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I'd like to try and

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Dan 1: I'd like to try and

be more optimistic, but

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Tilly: you to try and be more optimistic.

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That's fine, you married an optimist.

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I'm not an optimist.

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I think you are.

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I think that's it.

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It's a long way.

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Yeah,

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Dan 1: just a long road.

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Tilly: that's fine.

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Life's a journey, isn't it?

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I'll be rolling a check and rosinus.

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I'll just do, um, I'll you know, when do

come to get into these meetings, I'm It's

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not always the most pleasant thing for me.

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And that's, you know, a fact I understand

that because that's the person I'm

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on, and I can hear that all my Um,

but it doesn't mean it's always easy.

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So it's down to both of us to

find a better way of So whether

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that's how you tell me you need

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: do we come up with a

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Dan 1: Well, I can just

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right now.

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I down!

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Leave me alone!

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Please!

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Please leave

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me alone!

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Tilly: But I do think this is the sort

of way you read it, you know, when

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it comes to the point where you just

tell the newspaper, you know, darling,

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I need a reset, and I go, alright.

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Leave it at low.

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Dan 1: think we'll leave that

point instead of me having to be

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like, basically, leave me alone!

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No, that's not.

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though.

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Tilly: see it build.

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I know it's coming and then

eventually I'll be like, wow,

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I could have said that we could

have done could have reset

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it.

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So if I need to go, do you need to reset?

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And

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: can give me a sidekick

on the back like, no, I'm fine,

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Dan 1: I'm gonna go reset.

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Tilly: you And then a bit

tougher later, I need to reset.

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How do you tell a child, he's

fat and I'm not telling it.

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Dan 1: Yeah, plant the seed, I think

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Tilly: that's often what

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Dan 1: That made me think it's my idea.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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The fragile precious little ego.

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hey everyone.

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So, it's quarter to five.

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I've been up since half two and I thought

to myself, Oh, I haven't asked these

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lovely listeners to review the podcast.

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So, thank you for listening.

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Thank you for your time.

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And if you've liked it,

please leave us a review.

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Oh no.

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She's kicking off.

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Uh oh, I better go see to her.

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and thank you for your time.

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Bye!

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guess

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also.

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um, we've completed our

planning midway through June.

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Tilly: Ah, that's alright.

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Dan 1: Yeah, I mean.

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Tilly: No, there's, no one

has, like, free in court.

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Well, they do now.

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Dan 1: Yeah, well, technically by the

time, we're only four weeks behind.

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By the be like mid Feb.

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But the, um, the date where fail it.

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And we've only just done New Year's Pride.

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So.

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Does that mean we're winning?

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or losing?

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don't

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Tilly: Oh, it's the greatest

late run of the year, I suppose.

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Also, is it our next course?

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We should put it on our diary, actually.

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Dan 1: that's true.

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We're going to try and do a lot more,

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might need to metrics.

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push because I think know,

people always have questions.

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Very airy fairy of stuff, and

things a lot of them like to

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do are very qualitative, and so

need to find the proper stuff.

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Like as we discussed last week,

this idea of trying to keep our

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relations at the current

level if not improve,

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Tilly: measure.

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I guess, if you're really

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Dan 1: You know, how do you,

you can't really measure that

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Tilly: and then we also want to

start couples therapy, so once

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I'm back at income coming in.

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Dan 1: and, and it

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Tilly: do it for

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Dan 1: easy to measure.

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So

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Tilly: perfect time

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Dan 1: I guess if you were really

accurate, you could do stuff like

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fraught words, the lowest one, exactly.

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And so instead, it was like, okay,

the thing that matters most to us

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is our quality, it's the amount of.

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On this timing, and, yeah, you know,

for that, it's measuring eight months.

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Or moolah.

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Tilly: My relationship

is under more pressure.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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We'll need to work out with baby Zoe.

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Haven't thought about that.

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Tilly: No.

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We've fought

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that.

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Dan 1: Thursday.

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Tilly: Mum will be here

late in the evening.

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I'll be at work.

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Dan 1: But will you be finishing, kind of,

you know, sometimes, a lot, a lot of days

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you end up finishing, like, three, because

you start, like, seven in the morning.

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Tilly: Yeah.

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I'm not, I still think, I think Mum

probably will be gone by half four.

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Yes, we'll have to figure out

what we us where she sleeps.

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Or breastfeed through it.

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very disturbing.

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I agree.

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Well,

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Dan 1: You'll be very distracted.

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Yeah.

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It's definitely we should talk about.

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Maybe it's like you say.

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Yeah.

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in person?

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Let's lot

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less

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Tilly: he

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can become like maybe

once a fortnight, and look

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after day, and he stays, dad

can just have Do you want to do

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think, let's That's pretty easy.

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I guess.

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That's probably fitting

a lot better as well.

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a lot better.

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I don't think it's that Exactly, I

just think it's not to travel, but to

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Dan 1: the question is like,

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Tilly: an hours, and

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Dan 1: effectiveness is more important

when you do it consistently, than

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if got a, you know, politician

while you're there, as it were.

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Um, maybe.

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Yeah.

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So what have, what have there

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Tilly: that's much harder to fit is there.

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Well, being able to speak

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Dan 1: Because we've got

to, it's on Moods, and Firm,

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that's the target criteria.

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Tilly: Well, it helped find

me, for a big difference.

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I'm doing the right thing,

I'm doing the right thing.

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Dan 1: mean, What are

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Tilly: I generally just feel a lot more

positive about the movement of my body,

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which is the thing that everyone knows,

it releases endorphins, it's a lot better.

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But, you know, there can be days

where you just don't want to do it.

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Actually, when I woke up in the morning,

I was just tired after a long day.

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People say, you never regret a step.

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Well, I put it with a few engines.

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You keep moving

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Dan 1: yeah, and that, I like, we've

both tried, not many sessions, do we?

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It's a bit of a laxative.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Tilly: meditations and things haven't you?

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I'm

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Dan 1: doing it, uh, once a

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day.

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I'm trying to meditate every

day, of week or weekend.

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Tilly: maybe, people say, I too.

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If

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Dan 1: to get to the habit of doing

like 10 15 minutes, then the amount

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of minutes per week is the metric, and

then I've got increasing those minutes,

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then maybe increasing the session.

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Some people say I guess it

depends on what you're trying

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to achieve, I think, because you

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Tilly: you

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reach that.

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Tilly: it.

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Dan 1: amount of time it's affecting,

and a lot of people kind of say that

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you need 20 minutes or whatever,

and then some people say, and then

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you do it twice, trying to reach that.

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So that's Old sort of

Hollywood transcendental mood.

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They're all sort of 20 minutes,

30 minutes a day, or day.

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And there are other people who if you're

trying to achieve a bit more of a more

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Tilly: I guess.

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Dan 1: I would no more

recommend just beat.

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It depends on what

you're trying to achieve.

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If you more focus, more mood

levels, or if I want great?

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I remember when I I always thought,

like, you always think about what

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would you do if I meditated money?

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And the question is always, and a

lot of people kind of say oh they

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would, you know, stop working or

they'd buy these things and those

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They're all kind of like what they

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deem

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to be to happiness.

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Tilly: so,

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Dan 1: so I then would

flip, and I'd say, okay.

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Tilly: police?

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Dan 1: What would you do if you

were at the perspective of Arnold?

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Would you still work?

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And all these things.

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Tilly: what I'd

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Dan 1: what I'd

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like

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to achieve

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Tilly: do.

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What happens

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Dan 1: know, it sounds a

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Tilly: think it's

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Dan 1: you know, impossible.

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See in

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see me in 10 years time

in my mom's old bed.

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Tilly: you couldn't put off old Devin.

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Dan 1: No.

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Tilly: No?

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No.

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Have you ever had a shaved head

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And you'll never be bald, so.

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I know, I'm good because you'll

never be bald, unless you do it.

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It's the high.

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Dan 1: so I guess, what are your

highs, lows, That's interesting.

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Tilly: So my, I guess my high mixture

load was yesterday, so my, my granny's 80.

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That's really lovely to go.

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It's really nice to see family and

take Zola and she got to meet someone

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she'd not met quite sad because my

granny just isn't there anymore.

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Dan 1: No, she's

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Tilly: Like, she's been, downward turn

for a long time, ever since she's been

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in her past couple of weeks, she seems

to have like, deteriorated again.

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Like, she's not

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Dan 1: So should

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Tilly: really eating, she's looking even

thinner, and my god, she's really, she

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couldn't stand to lose any more weight.

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Dan 1: character.

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Tilly: just looking

not particularly alive.

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Dan 1: she's just, I what she was.

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Tilly: think she's at that

point now where she wants to go.

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Since she doesn't want to It says she

wants to live, but she doesn't No,

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she doesn't do the things that would

help, like eating, um, or socialising.

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And a vibrant woman.

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She's always tough and

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strong and not like a soft, warm

person, but she was always really

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vibrant and interesting, very

intelligent and fierce and, character.

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But it was probably got don't care.

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Boring.

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And now she's just The

shadow of what she was.

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I mean, I just, I know

this stuff, you know.

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That woman.

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Dan 1: Well, I think it's very

rare for anybody to have a great

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grandparent, as they're like

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Tilly: I think she'll know your

grandparents pretty well, and I think

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she'll know Grandad pretty well.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: think she will know,

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Dan 1: You say that, but it depends

when your memory kind of kicks in,

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when it really starts, when it works

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well

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Tilly: don't think they're going

anywhere in the next few years.

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Dan 1: No, but like

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Tilly: I have, my great granny

died when I was six, have quite

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a good memory of my great granny.

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I'm

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Dan 1: think my great granny probably

died around the time in my memory,

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or that I don't really remember.

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Tilly: Sola's got a good memory

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Dan 1: Well, what I'm

sort of saying is, like,

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Tilly: them.

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Dan 1: catalogue of memories, dependent on

how in their life they are, we're talking

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by the age of, like, a long time, as well.

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Like, you know, if you're eighty

odd, unfortunately, or your

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granny's eighty one and stuff, your

grandad's the same age, my grandad's

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the same

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Tilly: I don't He'll be

78, he'll be 79 this year.

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I heard a younger one, um, Three years.

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Funny Zolas.

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I'll come on to that.

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Um, But yeah, so that was

still quite sweet I suppose.

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Yesterday.

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I think we can make sure we're still,

you know, We tend to see her for two

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or three weeks since Zola's been born.

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Um, I think she's

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born to keep up.

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I don't think she's going to

be around that much longer.

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Looking at her, you know, she managed like

an hour or so of partying, didn't she?

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Dan 1: A bit longer than that.

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We got there at like half twelve and I

think she, she, you know, I think it was

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about, we left at what, three o'clock.

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So I think she was around till

about two at least before she

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decided to go to her room.

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Tilly: Yeah,

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she'd been around up for a

little bit before we got there.

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:

Dan 1: two hours.

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Yeah.

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:

It's a lot.

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you know I mean two hours doesn't sound

like much, but you've got, you know,

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nieces, her toddlers running around,

shouting, screaming, you've then got,

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like there's a lot for me and I'm just.

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And obviously lots of adults there trying

to talk to you and lots of conversations

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going on and you kind of haven't come in

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Tilly: you're on quite

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Dan 1: mentally taxing if you're,

if you're not socializing and if

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you're not doing,

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Tilly: no, yeah, it is.

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actually watched Hods

earlier for a bit, which was

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Dan 1: And when I took it through.

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Afterwards, when everybody was off for

the smoke break, she yells all over again.

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Tilly: So that was, yeah,

that was, I guess, that was

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a high low.

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Dan 1: watched

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Tilly: and my high, again

yesterday, and so did her first

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laugh, which was really sweet.

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Dan 1: I'm looking forward to the second.

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:

It

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Tilly: Yeah,

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proper sort of like,

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you know, you laugh and it's

just like, you know, I know

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you love to make me laugh,

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Dan 1: at

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Tilly: something so beautiful

and anxious about it.

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:

That's really nice to sort you know?

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:

Eventually I'll sort as well.

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Dan 1: the intermission noise in this,

because I think it is just so It's

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actually sort of an infectious noise.

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Yeah.

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I

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Tilly: But I have a funny.

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Dan 1: No,

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Tilly: I can't think of what, maybe

I will think, but not right now.

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Maybe I'll come back to it later

podcast, but, no, I don't think

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:

Dan 1: So I, I think my high

probably yesterday, and kind of

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:

nice to be able to go around and

see all sorts of friends and family.

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:

There's also

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one of my close childhood friends

who's an engagement so, in the

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evening, so we took care of that.

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And so, kind of, she had a very busy day

in that, kind of, we'd leave the house.

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:

What, 10?

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Well, 11, yeah, 10 to

11 we left the house.

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:

Um,

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:

Tilly: And then,

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Dan 1: It's from then,

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we're out, she's leaving the car, she

goes to Bristol, she's then and then,

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again, get back here, have a

feed, we're about, what, we're

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:

only home hour, weren't we?

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:

And then, leave again,

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:

Tilly: It's

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:

Dan 1: and that's another two,

two and a half hours at least.

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:

Tilly: through my mind.

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Dan 1: to kind of, to help, or

see my mum, that was it really.

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:

Tilly: four.

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:

Dan 1: Um, but she's happy to be held by

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Tilly: toddler.

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:

Dan 1: the times when we're with

mum, it's not been long enough her

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to finish what she was doing before.

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Like, she often is in the middle of

cooking and by the time, kind of,

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:

we're actually finished with food

and had dinner, it's like, well,

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:

we've got to go in 15 minutes, or

it holds over, instead of it kind

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:

of being like, so I think, yeah.

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:

Tilly: It's broken my heart.

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:

Dan 1: So that's probably my high,

because It's quite nice to be, you know,

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:

that can still kind of have a, life.

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:

You just need to bring an apple bag

with you And and, and the boob machine.

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:

Tilly: So I put her on my lap, her on my

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:

Dan 1: I don't think smacking the mic

around now, um, and then I think my.

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:

My funny was, um, Friday, Friday

evening, I was, she's, she's she's

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:

started trying to sit up now.

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Um, and she like rockets herself up,

she's also started dribbling quite a bit.

519

:

And so, stuff that I usually do, she's

Just drooling, and so I was holding

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her above my head, and I'm just

drooling, so I tried to get her to, to

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:

drool, and I told you that

we were going for a kiss,

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:

Tilly: that

523

:

Dan 1: and tried to get the little

baby Zoe to drool on you now,

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:

Tilly: pulled

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:

Dan 1: her down.

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:

for

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:

Tilly: Pulled it.

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:

Dan 1: small

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:

Tilly: should work.

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:

Dan 1: you and drool on so that's my funny

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:

Tilly: something wrong.

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:

Yeah.

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:

There

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:

Dan 1: drool attack, there was something

else that was funny, What was that?

535

:

I can't remember it now.

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:

Yeah, yeah, that was nice.

537

:

What were we laughing at?

538

:

There was some Sometimes she does

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:

Tilly: I'm a caring parent,

but love my crybaby.

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:

Dan 1: some very odd cry.

541

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Tilly: Sometimes she, I

feel like she's not really

542

:

Dan 1: No, no, I think she's

getting to that point now.

543

:

Where Sometimes she's crying

somewhat for attention.

544

:

Obviously that doesn't mean

I don't check she's alright.

545

:

You can see the way sometimes she cries.

546

:

She sometimes doesn't, it's not even like

a crying noise, if you know what I mean.

547

:

It's her trying to imitate the

noise that she makes when she cries.

548

:

They'll just hear a, wah, no that's

not it, and then eventually when

549

:

she realizes she's not, eventually

she'll be like, wah, there

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:

Tilly: Give me a real cry, come on.

551

:

Dan 1: what it was,

552

:

Tilly: Fake crying.

553

:

yeah, I mean, I like our little lead

time together, it's nice, isn't it?

554

:

Or, very occasionally, we read.

555

:

I know what was funny, actually, this

week, talking about this actually, I

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was changing her nappy, and I was just,

you know, wiping it all up, and she

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trapped my finger in her nappy, so I

was wiping it through, and she sort of

558

:

did a stretching cleanse, just so my

559

:

finger

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Dan 1: Loves to do the

stretch during the nappy.

561

:

change, she's now started also,

she's really not in the mood for it.

562

:

Trying to rig a lot.

563

:

Tilly: she moves, she moves quite a lot.

564

:

Dan 1: Yeah, because she'll put

underneath her, like at the sole

565

:

of her foot, down by her butt and

566

:

propel

567

:

Tilly: she's really cruel, she'll

568

:

slam

569

:

Dan 1: Yeah.

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:

Um.

571

:

Tilly: It's just we have a

little helmet so she doesn't,

572

:

like, rock her head into things.

573

:

3, night,

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:

Dan 1: love, I guess,

575

:

Tilly: to

576

:

Dan 1: Friday night, tempting

to take her for the night,

577

:

and then not really manage it.

578

:

I thought I did a lot better than I had.

579

:

Um, so, uh, baby Zoe sleeps in bed

with us, because, um, well, you're

580

:

breastfeeding, and so it means that

you try and she'll fall asleep, and

581

:

then once you wake, feeding, you

582

:

feed her.

583

:

So we're not

584

:

Tilly: you're waiting for a

changeover plan, which you're so

585

:

sorry for, because it's not easy.

586

:

You

587

:

Dan 1: all the sleep.

588

:

She often needs to be on her body.

589

:

I wanted her, to do it with me so that

you could get some, some comfortable

590

:

Tilly: then Brian

591

:

Dan 1: having full sleep, like

sat up in bed or something weird

592

:

Tilly: a bit of a bummer.

593

:

That's alright.

594

:

You've

595

:

Dan 1: quick to fall asleep.

596

:

And

597

:

Tilly: take her

598

:

Dan 1: Zoe wasn't, but I kept asking

out should I and Edward sleep in.

599

:

So eventually you just had to

take her off me, didn't you?

600

:

Which didn't, didn't last very

which is, so, sorry about that.

601

:

Tilly: so.

602

:

Yep.

603

:

Dan 1: that'll be an interesting one.

604

:

So, just go and I'll

605

:

have a, I'll

606

:

just go

607

:

sleep in the armchair.

608

:

That way last good night's sleep.

609

:

Do you want me

610

:

Tilly: really nice.

611

:

Dan 1: of these

612

:

Tilly: you want me to just give it

613

:

Dan 1: I guess, Like, I said,

you can just ring me and I

614

:

Tilly: Yeah, actually

if my boobs are tight

615

:

Dan 1: Okay, now for a quick

word from our sponsors.

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:

Ha!

617

:

No, I'm kidding.

618

:

We don't have any sponsors.

619

:

But if you were to leave us some

five star reviews, and maybe

620

:

some lovely words, we might do.

621

:

Fuck me, that was desperate.

622

:

Snapchat.

623

:

Do we have any?

624

:

Tilly: this with the, what, oh she

just kept doing a poo, we changed it,

625

:

she did like another poo, you change

it, did like another poo, change it,

626

:

another poo, she did three poos in a row.

627

:

I was just like, her to sleep

in bed, she kept doing poos.

628

:

It's not

629

:

Dan 1: Might have been.

630

:

Tilly: really something that

interesting, I thought, filly up my pass.

631

:

But it of poos.

632

:

I used do.

633

:

, Dan 1: so.

634

:

It's really a

635

:

bummer.

636

:

Tilly: Bar,

637

:

Dan 1: oh!

638

:

Tilly: Maybe join in with a bit of that.

639

:

Dan 1: I

640

:

had

641

:

Tilly: might as well do

a quick sketch, yeah?

642

:

Okay, go, go, go!

643

:

So, catch

644

:

Dan 1: SketchUp wise,

645

:

my youngest

646

:

trouble bit when transitioning

to formula and would need

647

:

assistance moving things along.

648

:

We would do bicycle legs

649

:

and a well known.

650

:

I love you tummy math part Until enough

of the firm movement would engage,

651

:

Tilly: I was just

652

:

Dan 1: in gently wiggling it out.

653

:

Tilly: and one afternoon, I

654

:

Dan 1: I only needed a slight

655

:

Tilly: that

656

:

Dan 1: and it launched out.

657

:

like a rocket, flying literally

about 6 inches away, followed by

658

:

a bucket's worth of soft serve.

659

:

Tilly: I

660

:

let

661

:

it run its

662

:

Dan 1: course,

663

:

Tilly: clear in the bathroom, and

664

:

had Daddy keep on it, changing

665

:

Dan 1: table cover off and straight

666

:

Tilly: the dumpster.

667

:

Dan 1: thought you were

668

:

Tilly: I just clean it?

669

:

People are so funny.

670

:

It's just poo.

671

:

So that

672

:

Dan 1: So that was, that was

a lady, that was a baby girl,

673

:

this is a Dora, here's one.

674

:

When

675

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my daughter, three days

old, had just gone home.

676

:

Tilly: of work

677

:

Dan 1: blowout.

678

:

We didn't know how

679

:

to

680

:

cut the dirty onesie off, so

681

:

Tilly: home.

682

:

I'm at We change the

683

:

Dan 1: and got her all me,

since I was holding her during

684

:

the blowout, and put all

685

:

Tilly: we sit in

686

:

Dan 1: things in a bag.

687

:

Tilly: sit all over

688

:

Dan 1: realize that the dog

had gotten into the poop bag

689

:

and dragged it all over the

690

:

Tilly: Oh, and like, Newborn baby poos

are really like, thick stuff, isn't it?

691

:

Do you ever try to

692

:

Dan 1: and dog's breath is to hold smells

693

:

Tilly: set apart?

694

:

Yeah,

695

:

Dan 1: incubate

696

:

Tilly: Interesting.

697

:

Okay.

698

:

Dan 1: smells for so long.

699

:

so, here's something funny I found

something quite entertaining on

700

:

Reddit that I thought you'd like.

701

:

Tilly: yeah?

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:

Dan 1: There you

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:

go.

704

:

Tilly: Baby's

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:

Dan 1: Restaurant Reviews.

706

:

So here we go.

707

:

To start, Every

708

:

Tilly: time I do

709

:

that,

710

:

Dan 1: asleep while eating, I wake up in

a different room without my clothes on.

711

:

these are all

712

:

Tilly: all reviews

713

:

Dan 1: that

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:

you, uh

715

:

Tilly: Reviewings?

716

:

Yeah,

717

:

Dan 1: like, reviewing

something on Google Maps.

718

:

Heh heh heh.

719

:

then, I

720

:

Tilly: Five star.

721

:

Dan 1: I

722

:

shit myself.

723

:

at the table and everyone

pretended not to care.

724

:

Tilly: Three

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:

star.

726

:

It

727

:

Dan 1: He only

728

:

keeps cutting me off because I look

729

:

Tilly: look stupid.

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:

Four star.

731

:

Sometimes when I eat more food.

732

:

Three star.

733

:

Just don't

734

:

Dan 1: Three stars.

735

:

dining

736

:

in.

737

:

Tilly: We calculated that there would be

5 2 and we tested it and it was 5 stars.

738

:

I've definitely done that.

739

:

Dan 1: on my head.

740

:

Tilly: with my coffee and

Fatty jumped on the puzzle.

741

:

Here we go.

742

:

I'm trying to get my digit to pass.

743

:

We can do that.

744

:

We'll

745

:

Dan 1: there's a good one on scar

ale part had zero drinks tried to

746

:

get it myself and he just passed off

the other lady there won't be coming

747

:

back there we go i think that's us

748

:

then

749

:

Tilly: going to get some cooking in the

kitchen where It wouldn't be counted.

750

:

No, you belong there.

751

:

I asking.

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:

Yeah, we're going For this week, we've

got a humble and being nachos lunch.

753

:

And then

754

:

I'm going to make my own stuff.

755

:

And then we're going to make roast dinner!

756

:

And

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:

Dan 1: All right

758

:

Tilly: guys.

759

:

Dan 1: we're off.

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:

Tilly: Latest potatoes.

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:

Are you all Don't turn this

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:

Hi, my lovelies.

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Thank you for listening.

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